Develop who YOU are

It's important to be comfortable in your own skin. It's important to know that we all have our own unique path and our own unique attributes that make us independent of others and it's imperative to feed that uniqueness within ourselves. It's also important to understand and know that not everyone will like you. You will not be everyone's cup of tea and that's fine. You're not inadequate because of that fact. Actually it's the opposite. You're unique and special because of it.  Ever want to be liked by someone (typically this scenario is called a crush) but you're crush doesn't reciprocate your feelings? Then time passes and you learn that you've dodged a bullet. Let's dissect this one a bit further.

I truly believe that you can learn from everyone. Ever notice certain celebrities that are famous for nothing in particular yet they seem to always have an audience? There are a few who immediately come to mind. Certain people live their lives completely un-bothered by what people say about them but they know exactly what they want and despite the opinion of others, they go get it.   They all tend to have one particular commonality and that's the notion "You either like me or you don't". Everyone is going to have an opinion but the concerns and opinions of others are not your business. You were created to live your one life to the fullest and to the best of your ability. Abilities that you're constantly fine tuning and discovering along the way.  

I'm going to give you an example from real life scenarios that I'm sure you've picked up on. You ever been around a person that everyone seems want to be with or imitate? Sometime these people are categorized as having loose morals which is not always true by the way but that's another topic.  It's the man or woman that it seems everyone wants or the person that everyone wants to be around. Something these people learned along their way in life is to let go of what doesn't serve them according to what they want to achieve. Sometime it's used to manipulate people out of things. Dependent upon your interaction with them you have labeled them a few ways. Motivated, determined, and sometimes called gold digger. The terminology can change dependent upon your experiences with them but it all stems from the same core.  Call them whatever you like but one things for certain and it's that they are great at analyzing those around them. They are great assessors and they use that to see how they can benefit from people or situations and then they choose to either build a bond or let unimportant
people go. From this constant rotation of people they have learned a lot about people and they in turn take these collective experiences and shape themselves into a more 'likable' self-confident individual. Did you pick up what I said just now??? Confidence is a learned trait and it has little to do with looks. Outward appearances may draw you to a person initially but it's the confidence of a person that seals the deal.
There are multiple steps that you'll need to follow in order to build your self-confidence.
1.  Observe: Always pay attention to people and things. This is especially true if you're young. You learn so much by observing others and it teaches you how to interact but in the process you have to also communicate effectively as well. There's a way to say everything. It brings me back to what my mother used to say to me all the time when I was young. She would tell me at least once per month "it's not what you say but how you say it". Listen, observe and then speak your truth poignantly.
2. Be the type of person that you want to meet: It's called growth. Once you've observed enough  you'll then know what you like and then be what you like. Once you've learned how to know exactly what you like, you won't mind when other people object or can't see your vision. It goes back to not everyone is going to want, accept or know how to receive your energy and it's not your job to make them understand. It is what it is and if they don't get it, life goes on. It really is that simple. If you're constantly observing and morphing into a better YOU, then you'll always stand out. It's called knowledge of self. 

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