Wendy Williams Messy Marriage

Having been a Wendy fan for years I remember the early allegations of her husbands harassment of a former employee. I've listened to Wendy on her radio show for years actually since being a teen and I remember how she is easy to dispel those who have worked for the slightness thing but it seems to be a very hard task for her to reign in her husband. He's been accused of sexually harassing an ex-employee of Wendy's (Nicole Spencer) and in addition the employee claimed that he made the workplace a hostile environment with his constant harassment and abuse of his wife. Eventually the lawsuit was settled in favor of the ex-employee for $5 million dollars but Wendy adamantly denied all allegation then similarly to how she's trying to manage them now. Clearly the pattern of behavior has been formed.

Wendy makes it very obvious through her descriptions of her husband that he is the authoritarian type but certain disrespect is beyond repair. When she and her former employer WBLS had to pay the first settlement of $5 million. I still love Wendy's show but the I'm a tough woman who takes no prisoners persona is just an act when you're disrespected in your private life. Your home life should be your first priority and having a man openly disrespect you sets a precedent for your children who watches you to build their own foundation. She never denied that he was cheating which is avoidance. She only said in her reply to the allegations that everything was good in Hunter-ville and flashed a wedding ring but what good is a ring? It's backward logic! Also a year long investigation highlights another woman living off the spoils of your success and it's a slap in the face regardless. She should have taken that "L" a long time ago because now she's in her mid 50's and settling. In addition splitting up the coins she has now versus before is a hell of a set back. Honestly I think they're both living double lives but eventually all cross-roads come to pass.  


Live In The Now- Things to do at this moment to increase your good karma

This morning during my commute into work I was listening to radio and they were discussing how people get so wrapped up in trying to get to the next level or achieve their personal goals that we often forget to enjoy the beauty of the moment. We're all constantly striving for more than what we currently have that we tend to forget to appreciate what we have now. This causes major issues for us. 

There is nothing wrong with aspiring for more. Pushing your limits is a healthy path to growth. We can actually see that in the physical form when we push ourselves past our comfort levels with physical fitness. When you repetitively push your limits, you will gradually see the physical changes to your body. Wanting to achieve and do better than you are today is a great goal. We should all have short term and long term goals. However there are rules to everything and one thing you must do to ensure that you're spirit is welcoming bigger and better is to practice appreciation for what you have already attained. Hopefully you're better off now than you were a year ago or you've experienced wins and loses along your journey and that's okay.  Sometimes we tend to overlook the present and fall short of being grateful for the wins along the path. We can be so set on what the bigger picture looks like or how we expect it to look that we miss being grateful for the beauty of today. Tomorrow isn't promised but right now you're living your perfect imperfect life. Relish in it!

Things to do right now to show appreciation and gratitude

  1. Give yourself a moment to be in the moment RIGHT NOW! Take a few slow deep breathes and tell your body and spirit how grateful you are for it's contributions to getting you here. After a few deep breathes, take your fingers and slowly rub your chest or neck and say "Thank you". Touch is a powerful thing and appreciation of your body with your own touch stimulates positive vibes in the same way that it does when you're skin is stroked lovingly by someone else.   
  2. Smile! Smiling instantly boost your mood and it also encourages others to feel better and to think more highly of you. If you're one of those people who are constantly told "you're always smiling" be proud of that. I'm sure that smile has gotten you further than you're aware of. People want to include you in things because you appear to be more easy going. No one wants a combative person around them draining their energy. Your smile is your calling card to the world that you're happy and present in the moment. Let your smile works it's magic internally and externally so get to smiling.
  3. Slow down a take a few minutes to say a little "thank you" to your creator and the universe for this exact moment. You thanked yourself now thank the unseen for the things you're unaware of that's working in your favor spiritually.
  4.  Express gratitude and appreciation for someone who is helping you now. In addition do something small to assist someone else right now because someone is assisting you right now. It may not huge but subtle expressions of gratitude are still gratitude.Make sure that you tell that person helping you that you're gracious and appreciative for their assistance. Make sure you're doing little things too throughout the day to assist others in small ways or large if you're up to it.  As you give, so shall you receive. It's the universal law of karma.  


How Disney's Garden Inspired Me

I am definitely a novice at this gardening stuff but after success with my small little garden growing tomatoes, lettuce and a few other small herbs and veggies my interest has grown.That inspiration to do more with my gardening piqued when I visited Disney with my family a few weeks ago. My 7 year old daughter performed along with her dance academy at Disney and all the women in my family traveled to support her. In attendance was my grandmother who is almost 90 (pictured with my mother and children here) went on all the rides we could together but there were limits. My grandmother wanted to go on every ride that she possibly could so we made sure to do slow moving simple rides and I'm glad that we did. I would have never gone on the slower less action packed rides without her presence. During our Epcot day we went on a ride called Living with the Land and the name alone grabbed my attention but it's definitely one of those rides I wouldn't have gone on if it weren't for my grandmother and the unbearable heat. Never-the-less the ride had no wait and it was a sit down ride which accommodating wheelchair riders and it completely blew my novice gardening mind. I was blown away by all the usage of the space and the amount of vegetation they were able to grow in what seemed like a confined space. In addition to the space utilization, they also used sand instead of dirt and had rows of piping for their hydroponic vegetable garden which I've never heard of before. Again my mind was blown and I was immediately intrigued. Their vegetables were abundant, full and extremely vibrant which I only thought could be achieved through dirt and soil gardening. After doing a bit of research I decided to give it a go and purchased a small hydroponic system to use during the winter months here in the North East.

Hydroponic systems are great for indoor use and really maximizes small spaces. I purchased small florescent lights, a grow tent and pH controllers so monitor the system because one of the biggest drawbacks is root rot. I'm trying to avoid root rot and any pest that attack my harvest and naturally an optimal pH is what's best to assist with my overall goal. One thing that kept coming up during my search is that most people use this same method to grow indoor weed gardens so if you're into that and it's legal in your state it's a great little gem to get you started. Don't say I didn't look out for you.

Hydroponic systems also expedite growth so you're able to produce more plants at a faster rate. You're also able to control the nutrients of the plants being that it's all administer by you through the water. Since your plants aren't getting the nutrients from soil, then it's completely up to you how nourished your garden will be. Being that you're able to control the nutrients and there is no dirt the roots get more oxygen and the oxygen expedites the vegetation's growth and maturity. Your garden is also pesticide free which is healthier for you. Also there are no weeds to prune unless you're growing weed (HA) intentionally. If you've ever been on the fence about growing a garden to ensure what you're eating is healthy then there is no better time then the present to jump on it. Happy growing and I'll be posting my progress shortly.