10/18/2019

How to Be Happy!!!

From the time you're born to the day that most of us die where on a hunt to acquire more which most equate to gaining more money but that's WRONG. The problem with that logic is that money is never enough and in turn we lose our happiness in the pursuit of what we think will make us happy. We tend to think money will bring us more freedom. Freedom to go and to do as we please which is true but freedom does not mean you're happy. It may sound crazy when put in those terms but in all honesty it's even crazier to be actually living life constantly chasing a dream to achieve riches. There is nothing wrong with dreaming but if the dream involves self-centered actions to achieve it then you'll be unhappy when and if you do finally achieve it. The thing is  no one physically forces us to strive for money but it's a ritual passed down and taught because we're capitalistic. We're consumers and by consumers I mean that literally. We consume everything!!! We over spend, over indulge and consume all the natural resources of the planet like we can create more but we cannot.


We're never taught or fully understand the meaning of life therefore we don't really understand how to achieve happiness. If you're unsure what you are put on earth to do then you're drifting. One thing for sure is that your primary focus shouldn't be specifically to get rich. You have a purpose and part of understanding that purpose is to understand and acknowledge that we're all connected. That can be a hard pill for loners to accept. It definitely was for me because I dislike the all the pretending we do with one another so I've always claimed to not like people. However I love a few and throughout it all the one thing that I know is that I'm happiest when I'm doing for them. With that said the true answer on how to achieve happiness and our purpose is to help others and to leave the earth a better place by you simply being here! It's that simple! Think about the closet person to you. Imagine if they weren't there in your life and how different your life would be without them. They've impacted you to the point that you couldn't even fathom what you would be without them. Your interaction with everyone to some degree impacts them whether it's in a good way or a bad way. However if most of your interactions aren't helpful then you're most likely miserable or in denial that you're unhappy. If most of your interactions are helpful in some manner then you're probably extremely happy because you will see how beneficial you are to others and that builds your character and spirit. Even he simplest form of helping others with small exchanges of kindness help to build your spirit. The constant string of small acts of helpfulness lifts you up and you will be transformed.

This is why people are drawn to animals and most recently more people are drawn to plants as well.
It's the internal need to want to see something be its best self with your help with it achieving that goal. If you have a pet and you see how excited they are to see you it makes you feel good to witness their happiness and excitement. It satisfying to know that something appreciates you. Your animal is excited and shows appreciation because of what you do for them. You feel it and it helps to lift your spirits. It's the same exchange that occurs with personal contact as well. If you do well by others then they tend to show you or express their gratitude in ways in which you feel and that lifts your spirits. Plants too! You feed your plant and expose them to what they need and in turn they sprout new leaves and grow for you which is rewarding. You then fertilize it to try to get that plant to grow even more leaves. 


With all of that being said there is one last thing I want to expose you to. It's the simple fact that the Earth is dying. She's dying because of the one way exchange. She feeds us and allows us to live within her but we abuse that expression of love because we don't fulfill our duty to nurture her back. We pollute our water and over consume our resources and it will eventually exhaust those resources to the point where we cause our own extinction. In addition we're causing the extinction of other species as well which is not our right to do. I say all that to simply say to be kind to others so that you can reap your rewards. Be kind to animals and plants and seek out ways to do better by the earth. Push your legislature to let them know that climate change and environmental issues matter to you. If you do your part and a million others around you do their part we can help change the negative decline we're speeding towards. 

10/14/2019

Charlamagne the God Interviews the cast of Girlfriends

Did you guys happen to watch the Black-ish episode featuring the cast of Girlfriends??? If you didn't you're not alone because I planned on watching it but I missed it. Girlfriends aired it's last show over 10 years ago back in 2008 and it's still has a fan following!  You can just pull it up online if you've never seen the show but it was one of the first shows that I could related to that touched on alot of modern day issues such as natural hair and bisexuality. The cast was recently interviewed by Charlamagne who always professed his LOVE for Girlfriends for years. The ladies definitely look great and still have great chemistry between them. The show definitely needs a reboot or a movie because there are some die-hard fans of the show and I am one of them!

On a sidenote Jill was definitely my inspiration for a bold red lip! That was always her signature look.


9/25/2019

Nicole Murphy Clears the Air

Yesterday on Wendy Williams talk show, Nicole Murphy was the guest and she was there to set the record straight on kissing Antoine Fuqua. She gave it a few weeks to die down but she let it out. Understandably nervous about rehashing the story in front of an audience she tried to downplay the situation as if she was mislead to believe that Antoine wasn't married. Well I call BS on that! Hollywood is too small and the way she kept referencing social media she clearly knows how to use it. She could have easily jumped online to do a bit of digging to see if he was separated, single or divorced but she didn't. His 20 year marriage wasn't hidden but it wasn't a factor when they were together.


In spite of all that she did take advantage of the situation and offered her personal apology to his wife Lela on camera which was decent but clearly she's one to overlook the ring.  My take is.. if he was willing to do it then he should've been the one held accountable. It 's his marriage and Nicole is single! Nicole should have played it the same way he has and just not spoken on the situation at all if it were really bothersome to her. She came on Wendy's show to push her products which must be slowing in sales because she could have used her social media to push her stuff. Her core supporters will always be her supporters and her products weren't new therefore I believe she came to keep her name buzzing because there is no such thing as bad publicity. It would have been golden if she had played into the role completely and came out wearing a full catsuit! No one could deny the fact that Nicole looks great for a 51 year old grandmother!

9/24/2019

Piecing together Taraji and Mary... Also Pics from Emmys After Party


Were you aware that Mary J. Blige and Taraji P. Hensen were close? I remember the Beats commercial featuring the two women and Kerry Washington and I thought "that's cute they're industry friends" but I think they have moved beyond friends within the industry to real friends. I could tell when I saw the picture of Taraji and Angie Martinez of NYC radio, embracing at the Celebrate the Culture Emmys after party.
Taraji seems like "good people" and that is hard to find these days and you don't even need to be in Hollywood to say that. People are so disingenuous and when I saw the embrace of Angie Martinez I knew that connection was through Mary because Angie and Mary have long been extremely close. Angie has shared multiple stories about Mary and their closeness throughout the years. Still as of late I've been witnessing people share how Taraji has been true to them and supportive. Jason Bolden of the Netflix show "Styling Hollywood" tells of his introduction into the industry as being Taraji's stylist. She was the catalyst for his success as well. Got to salute her on her realness and authenticity!


Connecting the dots between Mary J Blige and Taraji. 


                     Now... more pictures from the Celebrate the Culture II Emmys after party and more...