Finding out your man is sugar daddy??!!!

Do women lose themselves when in a committed relationship? I can agree with that to some extent. Within a marriage you compromise but with time that compromise may strain the relationship. I recently read an article about a woman who had been married for over 20 years then discovered that her husband was a Sugar Daddy. LIKE a real damn official Sugar damn DADDY!!! Registering on a website for monthly subscriptions and everything!!! For those who aren't familiar it where a man voluntarily sponsors a young woman in exchange for sex!

So I'm reading the article and the woman said that she found out because she stumbled on reoccurring charges after he husband said he was leaving her!  The kicker in all of it was that she also found miscellaneous gifts that he bought for the girls and one of these gifts happen to be a $1500 Louis Vuitton bag while she got a damn lunch tote cooler! When she asked him about being a sugar daddy he admitted it and said that the girls made him feel appreciated. I about fell out!!! The fucking NERVE of this guy!!!!

Funny thing is though that she's not alone. There are plenty of couples in this same situation. It's called getting BORED in your relationship. On the radio this morning they were discussing the same thing when a young 22 yr. old girl said her 32 yr. old boyfriend said that he's bored and thinks about what he's missing out on. This all got me to thinking. All relationships that are long lasting will get to the point where things begin to feel routine. That's perfectly normal. However it's the mind that gets to playing tricks on people to make them feel that they're missing out when actually they're experiencing a great thing. Comfortability!!!  Think about it... when you're constantly dating and get tired of going through the motions you say "I just want someone that I feel comfortable with and that gets me". Well there is really no further "getting you" when you've reached the level in your relationship where you're both comfortable in each others presence. After a while that zen feeling will become boring but it's up to the individuals in the relationship to perk things back up. Do things that are out of the norm together to create new memories together. You both have to make it a priority or it will ultimately lead one or both of you to look for newness elsewhere. That is why people get divorced. They're searching for newness but in their search they're going to try to seek out someone else to fit in their same routine. Which will ultimately lead right back to that same feeling. The shit's CRAZY but people are crazy!
Anyway.... here's the link to the article: huffpost. It's a great a little read. Oh and back to my ladies. PLEASE don't forget about yourself for a man. Please don't stop working on your passions! Maintain an identity that is your own which includes getting stuff that you like and doing things that you enjoy. Even if you have to do some things alone. I'm at a age where I know a few women who have been dependent on a man and they all end up resentful and unhappy. Then they start to despise the man when you put yourself in the position by letting him control you. That too can start to fester into a problem and who needs that shit.


Taraji P. Henson renovates her step mothers home

There is nothing more rewarding than a pay it forward moment! Catch Taraji on My Houzz renovating her step-mothers house. It really is a beautiful sight to see when a blended family stays connected even when the family member who bonded you passes on. It was a beautiful sentimental gesture for Taraji to redo the home of her late father's wife.



Yesterday I reminded you guys that Beyonce would be dropping a new Netflix Movie which showcases her 2018 Coachella performance. However she came all the way through with an album which chronicles the same performance as well. So if you're not able to catch the Netflix movie then you would definitely be able to hear the performance featuring a full band! The album features the 40 songs she performed and both the album and the Netflix feature are titled Homecoming. I'm currently watching the Netflix movie and in true Beyonce style she incorporated personal behind the scene clips that allows her fan base to experience intimate details about her personal life and her inspiration behind her show.  The treatment for the performance was flawless and bought all kinds of HBCU college game vibes! The Nothing beats and HBCU game night and and the band is imperative to delivery of the SAUCE!!! The entire essences was executed flawlessly from the dancers to the costumes... her team killed it! If you missed the original performance then this is the next best thing! Dropping all of it during the week of 2019's Coachella was another great tool to keep the momentum going from last year for those who attended as well. The entire delivery of this project was on point and the Netflix special is a must see.


Guava Island on Amazon featuring Rihanna

Not only did Childish Gambino perform at Coachella he also debuted his new short film Guava Island, which is available nowon Amazon. One of the rare times I'm happy I pay all that money for Amazon Prime.

The short film is 46 minutes and features Rihanna as his love interest. It also features Letitia Wright who is better known as Shuri (the sister) in Black Panther.  Guava Island is a musically charged Caribbean themed short film about a guy (Childish Gambino) with ambitions to be a musician who is met with resistance when trying to perform at a festival. It also delves a bit into his political views of American greed. A longer more in-depth version of his "This is America" video with a love story incorporated into it. I think we can all agree that Donald Glover a.k.a. Childish Gambino is an awesome thought provoking artist. Take that hour and watch Guava Island. It's cute and gives you all the good weather summer vibes!

P.S. Don't forget Beyonce's Homecoming debuts tomorrow on Netflix for all the Beyonce fans.