No New Friends... Not so fast!

I'm a loner. Have been for a long time and I'm okay with that. However I do understand that there is a difference between being a loner and having no friends what so ever. I stumbled upon this video and I get the message but I think it can be misconstrued because we're all social, interconnected beings. If you think you don't need social contact then you're mistaken. That's exactly why being in solitary confinement drives people insane and is cruel inhuman punishment.

With the increase in social media usage and just modern society as a whole, the disconnected factor has been very prevalent. More people than ever before feel they are lacking a deep connection with others are are  lonely. The lack of friends/relationships are leading to an increase in depression. So much so that we're all starting to believe that it's okay and a sign of strength to not need people. Or we have a bunch of meaningless fleeting connections and instead of just being "friendly" with just anyone it's best that we seek out real connections. Depression can be a byproduct of loneliness and it can also lead to other things such as alcoholism and self harm. Therefore preaching that being solo and not finding connections is harmful.

The innate need for relationships and sincere bonds are real and it's the very reason why we notice the void. It's also a reason why pet ownership is up. As society it's normal to feel misunderstood occasionally and we my feel alone from time to time but it shouldn't be long term.We even seek out nurturing relationships with pets and we view pets as a way to fill a void. It's exactly why people feel their pets are a part of their family because they've bonded. We're starting to believe that it's okay to be alone on a prolonged basis and it's not. This is different from being comfortable with your own company. Temporary isolation and time for self-reflection is great. However having meaningful relationships assist us develop as a well rounded individual. We learn about ourselves from our interactions with others and life lessons like selflessness, compassion, strength as well as discovering our patients and tolerance levels. 

Khloe's breakdown on the finale of KUWTK... and Jordyn and Kylie

I'm back bitches!!! Sorry for the hiatus but sometimes I just don't feel up to it with all that's going on in the world... well... MY own personal world. Life can get sooo complicated but regardless. Let's chat!

I'm not a KUWTK fan and haven't watched the show in forever but I do want to see the finale of their last season with the blow up of Jordyn and Khloe. If I had to choose which of the sisters I liked the most it would have definitely been Khloe. Up until she said some questionable stuff about getting her daughter a "mixed" doll. That irked the shit out of me because there is no such thing as a "mixed" doll. There are lighter hued dolls with different textures of hair to symbolize but there are no mixed dolls. Hell... her daughter is black. Once she enters the world her daughter will carve out her own existence from how she's treated and I'm certain she'll experience some questionable behavior that will help her self identify. That's what people who have mixed children don't get. You may have one ideal of what your child is based on YOUR experiences but I guarantee you... based on how your child "looks", they'll have their own set of experiences that will certainly shape their world which may be completely different from your own experiences and a lot will be based on race. Especially in America and no amount of wealth or fame can protect you from others hatred. Besides for Khloe I just thiink she picked a disrespectful lowdown dog to try and start a family with. We're not even going to speak on the fact that when she meant him he already had a pregnant girlfriend! Tristan's ex said that Khloe knew full and well that they were together because she saw them at a wedding together. To be exact she saw them together at her cousin's wedding to Kevin Hart. Probably where he pushed up and she fell for it. Soooo in that case you win some/lose some. Make better choices!

I'll try to catch the episode but one thing that poignantly stuck out in my mind was that Kylie lost her closest friend during all of that and for whatever reason that really bothered me. Friends are hard to find! At least
real ones and you could hear in her voice on the clip when she's talking to Kim and she starts to cry that she's hurt because she saw her friend hurt. That's love!!! Regardless of what happen between Jordyn and Tristan what you're witnessing is a loss. I think Kylie needed her friend because as we've all seen they have spent countless time together. When you've seen Kylie in the past you've definitely seen Jordyn. At her birth, on vacations, during her holiday post and even in her home as Jordyn lived with her.  I'm sure that's been a very emotional experience for them both and no matter how many new pictures they post showing they've moved on they are still going through it. I now follow Jordyn myself on IG because I think she was bullied during that entire thing but was she wrong??? DEFINITELY! 
There is a girl code that no matter how old you are you're suppose to know. However being friends with Kardashian's probably didn't help her in learning that lesson beforehand because they don't follow girl code themselves. You cannot fault a girl for following your playbook. You're just angry that she did it to YOU.

I had an ex-friend who had her own questionable behavior with that exact thing once she had her two children that are mixed. She said that her daughter's school picked on her and labeled her daughter the problem child and she thought that maybe it was due to her daughter being mixed. Well... not sure if that is it but it definitely could be but either life will play out and she'll hear of questionable scenarios that will clearly be race related that you cannot protect your child from.


Rihanna's Fenty Clothing Line

Lord knows I love me some Rihanna but I'm not fully blown away with her clothing line. Well let me correct that... MOST of the items from her recently released Fenty collaboration with LVMH definitely looks like Rihanna designed them. What I mean by that is that the collection mirrors some of her previously released fashion lines which means that it has an island flare to it and I'm not a huge fan. However everything isn't for everybody so for those who love it... ball out! There are a few bangers amongst the batch that I feel are worth buying but only when I see some sale prices. If nothing goes on sale then I'm good with the miss.

One things for sure she's definitely sticking with the LVMH traditional price points which for the average is a splurge. The denim skirt, which is a banger is $360 and the pleated pants that I LOVE are $485! The pants are on my watch list. A pair of straight fit denim will run you $400 and the cheapest pair of earrings are $335. The sunnies/shades are all $400 and up but they're cute too! The cute corset dress is $990!!! Love the corset dress but it's not on my watch list. The corset t-shirt dress is $300 and it's super cute and fits the model like butter but it's a t-shirt and I can make something similar for less than $40.Also the shoes are a hard pass for me. Remember it's the name and partnership you're paying for but... if you've got then go for it! 


Finding out your man is sugar daddy??!!!

Do women lose themselves when in a committed relationship? I can agree with that to some extent. Within a marriage you compromise but with time that compromise may strain the relationship. I recently read an article about a woman who had been married for over 20 years then discovered that her husband was a Sugar Daddy. LIKE a real damn official Sugar damn DADDY!!! Registering on a website for monthly subscriptions and everything!!! For those who aren't familiar it where a man voluntarily sponsors a young woman in exchange for sex!

So I'm reading the article and the woman said that she found out because she stumbled on reoccurring charges after he husband said he was leaving her!  The kicker in all of it was that she also found miscellaneous gifts that he bought for the girls and one of these gifts happen to be a $1500 Louis Vuitton bag while she got a damn lunch tote cooler! When she asked him about being a sugar daddy he admitted it and said that the girls made him feel appreciated. I about fell out!!! The fucking NERVE of this guy!!!!

Funny thing is though that she's not alone. There are plenty of couples in this same situation. It's called getting BORED in your relationship. On the radio this morning they were discussing the same thing when a young 22 yr. old girl said her 32 yr. old boyfriend said that he's bored and thinks about what he's missing out on. This all got me to thinking. All relationships that are long lasting will get to the point where things begin to feel routine. That's perfectly normal. However it's the mind that gets to playing tricks on people to make them feel that they're missing out when actually they're experiencing a great thing. Comfortability!!!  Think about it... when you're constantly dating and get tired of going through the motions you say "I just want someone that I feel comfortable with and that gets me". Well there is really no further "getting you" when you've reached the level in your relationship where you're both comfortable in each others presence. After a while that zen feeling will become boring but it's up to the individuals in the relationship to perk things back up. Do things that are out of the norm together to create new memories together. You both have to make it a priority or it will ultimately lead one or both of you to look for newness elsewhere. That is why people get divorced. They're searching for newness but in their search they're going to try to seek out someone else to fit in their same routine. Which will ultimately lead right back to that same feeling. The shit's CRAZY but people are crazy!
Anyway.... here's the link to the article: huffpost. It's a great a little read. Oh and back to my ladies. PLEASE don't forget about yourself for a man. Please don't stop working on your passions! Maintain an identity that is your own which includes getting stuff that you like and doing things that you enjoy. Even if you have to do some things alone. I'm at a age where I know a few women who have been dependent on a man and they all end up resentful and unhappy. Then they start to despise the man when you put yourself in the position by letting him control you. That too can start to fester into a problem and who needs that shit.