Jordyn and Megan... Living their Best Life!

I am not mad at Jordyn for solidifying her HOT GIRL SUMMER with the creator Megan the Stallion. I enjoy RAP music! That's my shit and Megan is definitely enjoying the fame off her Fever album. She dropped a few jewels in Pimpin because all women should take note because these are words to live by FOREVER!

"Damn I want some head but I chose the dough instead... I could never ever let a nigg* fuck me out my bread!       Ain't no dick alive that could make me lose my mind.."  
For those of you who need a translation, it basically means get your fucking mind right ladies and don't let any man discourage you from getting your money FIRST! Do what you feel is right for you and if he's not with it or can't see that you have ambition goals for financial freedom then he's not for you (PERIOD). I don't care how many butterflies you have thinking about him or enjoy his company for right now. The picture is bigger than how he makes you feel at the moment! A lot of  women let "feelings" control their actions. NOPE... don't play yourself. Didn't even like the song at first but once I heard the message... I was sold on Megan!
Jordyn's out here trying to get her a bag and I'm not mad at her! Keep them talking about you and people will keep trying to link up which will increase her exposure and secure those earnings. That's the business model she's following and it may not be for you or me... but it's definitely a recipe. Good luck to all the ladies out there paving a road to their own success. I love to see ladies WINNING!


New Aged Views??? Or Nah

What's been up people? I must admit that I'm a hippie or whatever the new term is for those like me who are nature loving, fashion conscious, aura reading, preferably eats organic urbanite! It's only natural that I would raise my kids to have similar beliefs as myself but lately I've questioned if I may have done them a disservice by not exposing them to church or a steady religion. My eldest is turning 21 in 2 days and it got me to thinking. I didn't raise my kids to be overly religious however we do believe in GOD. Although I grew up attending vacation bible school every summer I didn't feel the need to expose my children to church as I've never felt that attendance at a church was necessary to express my faith for my creator.We all know people who attend church and have questionable views and some even use it as a way to feel superior to others with differing views. Honestly I'm quite proud of my family as we're all really good people and we all possess a great morale compass which in lacking for so many in today's society.  Needless to say as far as religion goes, I am not really religious but I do pray and we treat other people with respect and appreciate differences. I speak with my creator often  and show gratitude for my spiritual guides.In addition to honoring my creating I also practice a holistic practices for unknown forces and occurrences that me may not know exist but I don't believe it's disrespectful to my belief in God to do so. I do what is consider "new age" practices such as smudge cleansing my home, earthing which is basically exposing your barefoot in grass to ground your energy naturally and a few others. It may be new age to some but for me it makes perfect sense to be to maintain a positive energy!

The practice of  what's considered "new age" has nothing to do with ones spiritual beliefs. God is ever presence but so are forces that we may not understand so I take a little extra precaution and teach my children to be aware of the unknown. However not all people share my beliefs. Recently my daughters boyfriend called the idea of smudging witch craft which sort of bothered me a bit. She offered to smudge his new apartment to clear the energy and he got offended. LOL That also got me to thinking... if you're dating someone is it okay if you have different views and self healing practices? My thoughts have always been to do what you like and practice whatever you need to make yourself happy. My husband doesn't believe in my new age practices but he isn't bothered by them either. He damn sure doesn't see them as witch craft or at least he's never said that to me. I appreciate my eclectic taste and views as I believe they add to the appeal that is me! You know.. that "Je Ne Sais Quoi". Okay for those that may not know what that means it the "appealing quality that cannot be described or expressed" or your mojo. I teach my kids to follow their own paths and to do what feeds their soul and to also make sure they show gratitude to the spiritual realm and our creator. They're also encouraged to seek knowledge so that they can form their own conclusion as to what is best for them. So I'll take the hippie title and my grounding, sea moss eating self and blissfully keep pressing on. 

What are some of your self love practices? Do you follow any rituals that may be considered "new aged"? I recently went to a outdoor festival and noticed that I definitely wasn't alone in my ideas on smudging. Below is a shirt that I thought was super cute as well as a picture of my soon to be 21 year old "hippie" daughter. And that's me in the top... SUN BATHING! You know to get all that good energy and glow from the Sun while she's out and warm. 

Panic in Time Square from a motor cycle backfiring!

A motorcycle backfired triggering panic in Time Square! I understand why people ran however up until a few years ago it was a comical situation you tend to only witness in the hood but the entire country has developed this PTSD associated with the thoughts that at any moment you could be shot for no damn reason. Such a shame that you have to be fearful walking down the damn street now-a-days! 


Build your self esteem and self confidence!!!

Too many people confuse self esteem with self confidence and they are completely different concepts. However both have great importance on how we navigate through the world and our successes. Self-confidence tends to be easier to build because it is codependent on you ability to achieve certain goals and tasks. Being self confident leads to successful experiences and your motivation to pursue certain goals and your ability to achieving those goals are related to your own self confidence. You believed that you could therefore you did is a perfect example of this. It's easy to build self confidence in children from an early age by pushing them (with minor guidance) to achieve task that they thought were difficult and acknowledging their growth and successful completion. It's a integral part of parenting! It's also important for you to continue to strengthen your own self confidence because as we grow and settle into life we tend to push ourselves less. We tell ourselves things like "what's the point in learning (enter whatever here) because we already do (enter what you do here). In my profession as an IT Manger I often witness this when a company introduces new technology. Constantly people don't even step up to the plate to learn something new and put forth no effort at all which is detrimental to your continued success and growth. Yet the same person will complain about how they never have enough money or they wish they were better off in their jobs. HOW?!?! Stop wishing and take steps to start doing and you'll get there or at least closer to your goals than you would get by doing nothing! Totally step out of your comfort zone and start experiencing things that are challenging to you.

Then there is self esteem which is the belief in your overall worth. In regards to self esteem it's totally a a self defeating or self achieving goal. You must decide which you partake in. We are our own worst enemy for the most part and we need to be mindful of the thoughts we have about ourselves. Identifying a part of us that we would like to change is normal but harping on it is self defeating. If you're unhappy about something in your life build that "SELF CONFIDENCE" and change it. You'll be surprised what minor tweaks and subtle changes can do to build your self-esteem. Making subtle changes and adopting an appreciative opinion of yourself goes a long way and setting achievable goals for yourself will definitely assist in valuing your strengths. You cannot find self worth within someone else. Self esteem is internally driven.